Rooting out the cause

work-in-progress1Ever had one of those moments when someone says or does something and you just go ballistic?

Somebody has just found (and pressed) one of your “hot buttons”; you know, those things that just send you off the deep end or into the stratosphere (take your pick of imagery)

Do you allow yourself to simply feel righteous and while the rest of the world feels your wrath wonder “what the hell was THAT all about?”?

It’s all too easy at times to skim along the surface of of an issue without ever really diving into it. We might know we’re angry, unhappy, or feel threatened, but unless we dig into the fullness of it all, we can easily remain stuck.

This can even become debilitating for some people, depending on the severity of their reaction.
For people who, like me, have been victims of abuse in their lifetime, triggering can be frightening and isolating.

If you find that your response is just so out of line with the stimulus, it is absolutely worth the effort to determine what’s really going on. It often helps to get another person’s perspective. In some cases, a professional would be the best person to speak with.

We can easily be triggered by something that has virtually nothing to do with what’s happening on the surface and everything to do with what we’ve stuffed deep inside over the years.
It might not even be words or actions – it can be a sight, a sound, a smell – all powerful memory joggers.

If you are truly suffering, give yourself the gift of freedom and seek whatever help you need.
If you are simply making yourself and others around you miserable, the work you do may not be life-changing but it surely will be life-enriching!

So get that shovel out and start digging!
Become an Emotion Archeologist!
Hmm, an Emotiologist?
Oh fine…coin your own word for it and have a great day!

About zolfw

I am an avid trail runner and fitness enthusiast, an accomplished cook, a lover of cinema and literature (although I read everything from graphic novels to professional psychology tomes, neither extreme being literature in the strict sense) . I am a retired Health and Wellness Coach. I am a husband, father, grandfather, and uncle.
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